Dear sisters in Christ with broken hearts,
To you who are struggling to get out of bed, to move forward with life as if nothing happened. I don’t know what struggle you are facing right now, but I’ve been where you are. I know what it’s like to feel like your world has completely collapsed around you. I know what it’s like to feel like a part of you died and may never come back to life. I know what it’s like to even wish for death to come because the misery is so great you don’t know how you’ll possibly survive another minute. I know what it’s like to question God and to even wonder if He is against you and not for you. I know what it’s like to feel intense pain every time someone says a hurtful word when all you want is someone to be there for you, someone you can lean on and trust. I know what it’s like to feel all alone in the world.
Sometimes it’s hard for me to remember exactly what it was like to live through those dark days when it felt like every moment was a struggle to survive. I don’t want to ever forget that pain. I want to always remember so that I can have compassion for those who are now suffering greatly.
In the last few days and in the coming days, I’m issuing a challenge or a call to action here on the blog. I want all of this to be an encouragement to my sisters in Christ, and even to those who don’t share my faith if they are interested in reading. But I don’t want to issue this challenge to those of you who are deep in your heartache and grief – just simply trying to survive. I don’t want my words to be an added burden to your already heavy load. I’m going to link back to this post so that if you are one suffering from a broken heart and every single day hurts, my challenge to you is to simply cry out to your heavenly father who loves you, comforts you, and is close to the brokenhearted. He mourns with you, and sister, He cries with you. He hates to see you cry. The bible says: “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”
If you are suffering deeply right now, the source of encouragement I can offer you is to share some of the ways I worked through my own set of heartache.
- I cried out to God. I told Him everything I felt – I even yelled at Him. I know that we should have a reverence for God, but He is also our friend – our companion. It’s okay to trust God with your very real emotions. He’s so much bigger than we can imagine. He can handle it. So be honest with God – He delights to meet you exactly where you are.
- I kept a private journal, handwritten. Of course you can write in a blog, but sometimes it might be better to keep it just between you and God. There are words we can’t take back once we have spoken them and I really encourage you in those very dark days of grief to feel the comfort of a private journal where you can fully express yourself without fear of judgment or repercussions. You could also blog anonymously if you are looking to have a community of support.
- I read the Psalms. When I was sitting in the hospital bed the day after finding out my baby Matthew died, all I wanted to do was call my mom to comfort me. But it was late and the sweet 95 year old woman sharing the room with me needed her rest. The Psalms were God speaking to my broken heart on that night of my desperate need.
- I listened to songs for the broken hearted. I listened to hymns and worship music that spoke to my soul. Below I will share some really good songs that I would recommend listening to. When you can’t find the words to pray, let these songs be a prayer for you.
- I put a chair in front of me and visualized Jesus sitting in that chair with me. I didn’t end up talking but just sobbing. I know He was with me.
- I prayed for my future, that even when it was hard to believe, God was going to use this to build me up and be a testimony to His faithfulness.
- I read books on grief, miscarriage, infertility, etc.
- I read blogs about the above as well
- I didn’t get on Facebook or subject myself to things that might trigger more grief. Sometimes you just need a break from the world. With the internet, a lot our peace that we would otherwise have sometimes goes right out the window.
I want you to know that I have prayed for you and I want you to know that while it’s hard to believe right now – God is going to carry you through this. For now, I encourage you to simply fall into His arms. You might think of this time as a wasted season of your life. You might think you’re not useful to God, but I can promise you that He is not going to waste one moment of this season of grief. He is going to use every single inch of it. Looking back now, I can see His hand was in everything. It’s hard to see that while you’re going through it, so I pray that you’ll trust in my words as someone who was walked through grief and survived. You will get through this sisters!
Here are some songs that I hope will minister to your heart. Let them be a prayer for you when it’s hard to pray.
- Psalm 42 Song by the Sing Team
- Beautiful Things by Gungor
- Thy will be done by Hillary Scott
- Worn by Tenth Avenue North
- There will be a day by Jeremy Camp
- Hold my heart by Tenth Avenue North
- Safe by Phil Wickham
- Healing is in your hands by Christy Nockels
- It is well with my soul
- Cast thy burden upon the Lord
- Great is thy faithfulness
- Come to Jesus
- With all I am
- Homesick by Mercy Me
I hope this post will be helpful to someone out there who is hurting. If you are in need of prayer, please comment below or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
With love in Christ,
“God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4