I can’t even let myself go there

So Jonathan and I gave up on our trying to conceive break. It was pretty much decided because of how life got in the way of my plans to get everything perfectly aligned before trying again and I was like, “You know what, if we prevent pregnancy until things are perfect, we’re never going to be able to try.” And to be quite honest, Jonathan and I have both been so busy that there hasn’t been much time to even “try”.

And my cycles, the last 3 months have been so weird. I’m having some really weird symptoms and I’m pretty sure I probably need to be in a doctor’s office to figure out what’s going wrong before I completely lose my ability to conceive. But, there’s not any time to see a doctor! I have literally no idea when I’d be able to fit in an appointment, and if I did, it would just stress me out even more to have to make time for it. So yeah, my health has taken a seat on the back burner and I’m just praying that God will get me through to May when things slow down a bit so I can start taking care of myself. SIGH! That story is too long to even get into so I’ll talk about that later (well, when I have more time for blogging).

I don’t have time to blog right now even. I need to be doing laundry and packing because we have to be out the door at 7 am for my friend’s wedding weekend tomorrow morning. Oh yeah, and I got about 4 hours of sleep last night because of my busy schedule, so it would probably be a good idea to get up and get moving so I can get some rest tonight. BUT, I’m hormonal right now and I need to get this all off my chest.

I have been so busy the last 3 months that I haven’t even noticed my cycle. It’s like the third cycle in a row (or 4th, I’m losing count) of not being sure when to expect my period. I usually always know when my period is because it’s pretty easy to track what with it always arriving on time, every 28 days. But now, I’ve just been guessing at when it will start.

I’m pretty sure it’s next week, which works out perfectly because it’s in between my husband’s birthday (Saturday) and my birthday (April 23).

And my husband and I were together a few times this cycle so there is a possibility that we could be pregnant this month. But I just can’t let myself go there. I can’t let myself hope for that. In the past, I probably would have taken a pregnancy test by now just because of impatience, but I can’t do it. I don’t want to know. I feel very strongly that it would be a negative and I just can’t see that before my husband’s birthday and my birthday. Somehow, the start of my cycle seems less of a sad way to find out, so I’ll just wait for it to start.

I remember hoping to get pregnant last year around our birthdays. We would have found out right around Mother’s Day. I remember the horrible ride of hopefulness and emotions surrounding that wait.

But I can’t do it this year. I can’t let myself hope.

For months, there has been a stack of pregnancy tests waiting to be used under my sink. But I can’t stand to take it. And I don’t know if there will be a point in time in the future when I’ll be able to do so again.

The hormones are bad enough right now. Another birthday coming up means I’m getting older and my arms still remain empty. Another mother’s day with empty arms coming up. How in the world has it almost been a year since Mother’s Day? I feel like I just survived that day and here comes another one already. The time is just passing too quickly.

I pray that my journey with infertility is almost over and that God will somehow give us a miracle even though the odds are stacked against us, but right now, I don’t even have the energy to hope that my prayer will be answered soon. What is “soon” to God anyways? My definition and His definition don’t always match up and I don’t want to hope for something that isn’t in His will for me right now. And what if the rainbow baby I’ve been praying for isn’t biological but through adoption. That journey seems even more exhausting and it’s hard to hope for something that is probably so far off in the future.

I don’t know how to put my hope in an end to this pain, but I do know how to put my hope in God! So no matter what I’m feeling, I’m going to choose to trust Him and believe that He will continue to supply me with grace and everything I need to endure the trials of this life. And I also choose to trust that He can fill me with all joy and peace as I put my heart’s desire and dream to be a mother in His hands.

And so I’ll surrender this desire, this pain, the sadness into God’s loving Hands to do with it as He pleases. Let your will be done in my life Lord Jesus, whatever may come.


I’ve tried to write this post a million times…

I keep wanting to write in my blog, but every time I start typing out words, it feels overwhelming. There is so much going on in my life and I don’t even know where to begin or how to really express the way I’m feeling.

So I’ll keep this as brief as possible – I’m sorry that I have been missing the last few months. Life has been busy and when there has been down time, I just didn’t have it in me to find the words to describe what’s happening.

To sum things up, I overextended myself in different ministries. One ministry in particular I’m not even sure how I ended up involved in as I never intended to commit myself to that work. I don’t really know how to describe how that happened, but it did and now I have to follow through with something that feels like a burden. And I feel guilty about it – I should be excited and passionate about what I’ll be doing.

To make things worse, the person that I went into this ministry event with and that convinced me to go along with her decided to quit and left me as the team leader, in charge of coordinating the entire process. She made her decision 2 weeks ago, without talking to me and let me know via email that she was stepping down. It felt like I had been stabbed in the back and I spent the following days crying and hurt that my friend ditched me in something I was already feeling worried about doing.

I was able to pray and take the matter to God and I’m feeling much more at peace now and was able to forgive her and trust that God will help me overcome this obstacle.

And see, this is the point where I would usually stop blogging because I don’t know that anything I just wrote actually makes sense and I don’t know where to go from here.

But I’ll keep going this time, because I love this blog and I don’t want to miss out on the opportunity to share my experiences in every season of my life.

I wish I could say that this ministry is the only area of my life where I’m not feeling joy. But to be quite honest, I’ve started to realize that even as busy as I am, I’m just going through the motions. I’ve been trying for so long to hide the truth from others – so well in fact that I was even in denial myself. I’m depressed. Not like in the way I was during grieving following my miscarriages where I would cry almost daily and struggle to get through each day.

This is different. I don’t really know how to describe it fully in words, but I’ll try: It’s having a desire to change my life, to become a better person, to reach for my dreams. It’s knowing what steps to take to make positive changes in my life. But being too tired to care enough to actually do it. I want a better life, but most days I wake up and just sit in bed for an hour before actually getting out of bed. When I have to be somewhere, it’s easier, but I end up eating out and then feeling guilty for not making time to eat healthy so that I can get better. And when I have free time to relax and do the things I need to be healthier like prepare healthy food and work out, I just zone out and waste that time doing something like watching tv.

And then I feel guilty and worried and I beat myself up over another day of failure.

I kept blaming being over-extended with ministry things, but I think I finally realized something was really wrong with me when I couldn’t enjoy my anniversary with my husband. My grandmother died that week and her funeral was the day of our wedding anniversary. I didn’t feel sad over this though because she was suffering from Parkinson’s disease and my grandfather had passed in 2013. I was happy that she was now in Heaven.

We drove to Corpus Christi for the funeral and my dad wanted to treat us with a special suite hotel room so that Jonathan and I would be able to enjoy our anniversary after the funeral. The hotel room was huge with a beautiful balcony view of the ocean.

Jonathan and I went to the aquarium and ate out and saw a movie. I was trying really, really hard to make our anniversary special and romantic and to enjoy my time, but I just wasn’t able to.

The feeling that I had was a desire to just get back home. As much as my heart aches to enjoy these moments in my life and to cherish this time with my husband, and as I hard as I try to take the steps to do that, I can’t even find happiness in this.

Two of my best friends are getting married in the next few months and I can’t even bring myself to feel excited about any of it. And I feel so guilty over that. I want to enjoy these moments in my life.

I’m going to my friend’s bachelorette party next weekend and I’m just dreading it. That makes me feel awful. I should be excited about a fun girl’s weekend celebrating my friend. But instead, I’m just feeling anxious about how busy next week is going to be and thinking about all of the things I’m going to need to get done and worried that I’ll end up eating out because of my busy schedule and then feel sick and fat and mad at myself. And it all just feels like too much right now.

I know there’s probably someone reading this who doesn’t get it. You’ve never experienced this before. I don’t think you can understand what this is like until you’ve lived through it. Words just can’t really describe what depression is like. I don’t even think I’ve scratched the surface of what I’m feeling.

I have a family member who suffered from depression a little over 10 years ago. It was a severe depression, I’d say probably much worse than what I’m experiencing. They tried to end their life and weren’t successful and thankfully chose to go to therapy the following day. The road to healing was a very long process, but they were able to stop taking medication after a few years and now leads a very successful life. This person went from being a high school drop out to working a very important position in his company. They were able to start a family and now lives a very happy life.

So I know how beneficial therapy can be and how helpful depression medicine can be for a period of time. But I just feel scared. I don’t like opening up to people about what I’m going through. I don’t see how I could handle talking to a stranger about this. And I know that sounds weird because I’m writing about this to a bunch of strangers. But, it’s easier to express myself through writing than face to face conversation.

My parents had a cutesy name for what I’m good at doing: “Sugar-coating my feelings”. I like to cry in private. When the doctor told me our 2nd baby Matthew died, I didn’t cry. I shut my emotions off while I was in that office. The doctor was concerned by my lack of a reaction but Jonathan told her it would come later when I was alone. I don’t even like crying in front of Jonathan, but that day I fell apart as soon as we got inside the car.

It’s funny that people have told me how happy I look or sound when I’ve actually felt completely the opposite. I saw this picture on Pinterest the other day and it reminded me of how good I am at hiding my true feelings from those in my life:


That picture makes me sad. And it makes me think of how many people are suffering silently in the world without anyone knowing it. I didn’t want to share my story with anyone because I’m worried of what people will say or think of me. When you open up, you are more vulnerable to being hurt.

But when I googled “Christians and…._____” depression was the top searched item. “Christians and depression.” How can that be? Everyone seems to be happy when I walk through the church doors. But like the quote above, I have to wonder how many of my brothers and sisters in Christ are hiding their brokenness behind the veil of a beautiful smile.

And as scared as I am to bring my own brokenness to the light and open myself up to receive help, it’s with a great hope and prayer that I believe God will not waste this journey and will use my bravery to reach others who are hurting.

And so I’m taking this small step in faith to start sharing my story and in the coming days to find help to overcome this struggle. I do appreciate your prayers and ask that you comment with grace and compassion. You don’t have to understand what I’m going through to be compassionate, you just need to know that I’m hurting.

With love,


“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”

Cloth Diapers…

What a weird title for a RPL mom and for someone who’s currently on a TTC break. But you read it right – cloth diapers. I just ordered three cloth diapers for my future diaper stash!

Along time ago, back in 2011, when I was pregnant with Matthew, I ordered two cloth diapers from a company that was having an awesome discount on this particular brand of diapers. Of course I lost him and then my diapers arrived and it was the most heartbreaking thing to tuck those diapers back in the pretty wrapping and put them in a hidden corner in my closet. It was an odd sadness of feeling both devastated that I wouldn’t be putting him in those diapers that I ordered specifically for him as well as feeling hopeless with doubts and questions for the future. Will these diapers sit in my closet never to be used?

I debated in my mind on even keeping the diapers. In the bitterness of the loss, I wanted to toss them in the trash and not be reminded of the loss. But a little voice in my head said that maybe, just maybe, someday I’ll use these diapers for my rainbow baby.

I get emails all the time from the cloth diaper company that I ordered these two diapers from with clearance items and sales. Most of the time, I just delete them. Sometimes I’ll look and think about how cute the diapers are and wish I could order one to start my stash. But then the realistic part of me takes over and says, “You have debt to be paying off first. And you should wait until you actually have a baby on the way.”

But today, I clicked on the email and browsed the items. The diapers that were on sale, with free shipping were not only a good price, but really cute. I left my shopping window open and went out this morning with my husband to run some errands (he has a weird work schedule today). I asked him what he thought about me starting to build our diaper stash, paying attention to special diaper sales. I figured he would say no because we want to focus all of our efforts on becoming debt free, but in a total surprise he encouraged me to start working on our stash and said that he would be fine with me getting a few things here and there when there is a special deal going on.

I came home and got to work on my decision making. I can’t even believe I just ordered three diapers! This is not like me, but it was SO FUN! I can’t wait until they arrive so I can look at them and dream about the future. And I’m going to take a cue from some of my good blogging friends and go as far as to pray over these diapers and the little ones that will wear them.

I ordered this Kawaii One-Size diaper cover in light blue. If you aren’t familiar with cloth diapers, one size diapers can be adjusted to fit a baby at a small size through the toddler years (from small to medium to large). And a diaper cover is used with pre-folds or fitted diapers, which are a more frugal diapering option. I plan to mostly use pre-fold diapers with diaper covers to save money, but I will have the easier diapers for the times when someone else is caring for my baby, or for when my husband does a diaper change.

The next two diapers will be more “husband user-friendly”. I ordered the Kawaii pocket diapers in light blue and “comfy baby” which is a light yellow striped fabric. This is not a one size diaper, so it will only fit the baby from newborn to about 15 months. This diaper is more similar to a disposable diaper. When I do the laundry, I will stuff the diapers so that they are ready to just easily place on the baby, just like a normal disposable diaper.

From what I’ve read and listened to online for the last 4 years, it’s very important that you don’t purchase one brand and style of cloth diaper for your entire diaper stash. In the same way that my favorite brand and style of jeans might not work out well for another woman, cloth diapers will also work differently based on each baby and their particular size and needs.

So where I might think I would be saving money by purchasing all “one size” diapers to fit from birth to toddlerhood, I would probably quickly learn it was a mistake. So my plan is to slowly build my diaper stash, paying attention to sales and clearance items every so often so that I can have a variety of options by the time we finally have our baby.

I probably won’t be purchasing any more diapers for awhile, because my biggest focus is obviously still getting out of debt, but I am excited for this more hopeful step I’ve taken. I’ve been having a rough few days lately, remembering our first baby Abiygale and thinking about how she should be turning 3 next month. I was even watching someone’s video on YouTube the other day who talked about her birth after infertility and I started to panic thinking about all of the things that could go wrong.

And then I read this post from Elisha and Waiting for Baby Bird. I cried, hopeful tears. It was just what I needed. A beautiful reminder of truth to not focus on the chair legs of infertility and loss, but to focus instead on my amazing God and the truth of His word and His promises which are still for us today. I love that girl! She is a blessing and encouragement to so many and I can’t wait for the day when I read that baby Josiah, her promised child, is on his way to this world. Love you sweet friend!

4 years ago in January, the month before we got married actually, I had my second laparoscopic surgery. My first surgery in 2009, was to remove an ovarian cyst. I was diagnosed with endometriosis at the time and fell in despair worrying about infertility. But during my second surgery, the doctor removed a septum and discovered that I no longer had endometriosis. It was a miracle and a miracle that I didn’t even know was possible. Years of painful periods and finally I was healed. I didn’t believe it, but after having normal periods month after month over the next few years, it started to sink in that God had really done this for me. I can remember being so sick every single month and throwing up and passing out from the pain of my periods. Every month when I don’t get sick like that and just have normal, minor cramps, I always remember what it was like and feel so completely grateful to not suffer like that any longer.

I know that God healing me of this disease only to go on to miscarry 5 times might seem weird, but to me, I believe that He is working all things out for good and someday I’ll truly understand His will. But for now, the first part of my healing, the healing from endometriosis, gives me hope and reminds me that God can do all things. He healed me once, and He can heal me again in His perfect timing.

And I don’t believe for one second that these diapers will sit in my closet unused. These diapers are going to be prayed over and God will not waste these diapers ordered with faith and hope. I believe they will be used for my miracle(s), but who knows, maybe they will be used in ways I can’t even imagine. Perhaps we will be able to foster children or even adopt. Whatever God’s will is, I’m believing in faith that these diapers are going to be a blessing for our family!

Have hope my friends! The plan might not look like what we dreamed it would, but with God, it will be a beautiful unfolding, I can promise that!




The Glory Days

I hate when I go weeks without blogging because then there is usually so much to catch up on and I don’t always know where to begin. Sigh!

Christmas was busy and I was glad to get the holidays over with. Jonathan actually had a 6 day vacation starting on Christmas day, so we drove to see my mom and grandmother. My grandmother is still recovering from her knee surgery so it was an uneventful trip, but it was nice to see her out of the hospital and doing well.

Jon’s 6 day vacation wasn’t very restful, however, as we had to purchase an entire new wardrobe for his work clothing. He used to wear his police uniform, but the detective job requires business attire with ties as well as suits and ties for court. Thankfully, there was no shortage of overtime opportunities in November and we had plenty of money to go crazy with.

I thought it would be really fun shopping for him, but then we started paying for everything, and my frugal nature wanted to scream and run away. But my husband is 6’5, we were short on time to get everything, and we couldn’t be picky. There was a lot of sales, thankfully, but it was still a pretty penny. You better believe I saved all of the receipts for a tax write-off! And we got all of our shopping done before the 1st of the year :-)

The last few days of Jonathan being on patrol made me nervous. I stayed up every night listening to my police scanner app. Yeah – I’m not going to miss that at all.

On January 5th, we woke up at 5:30 am (the time we sometimes GO to bed with his weird patrol schedule) and Jonathan started his new detective job. I think I got about an hour of sleep, but ended up staying up all day because I was just that excited about his new position. I made him his favorite meal of chicken fajitas and a key lime pie to celebrate his first day of detective work. He loved it!

I have to say that being on a normal day shift schedule makes life considerably easier. Meal prep, keeping the house clean and organized, and still doing a few ministry events is much more enjoyable with his new schedule.

Detective work is still police work though and when Jonathan is on call, he could be gone for hours or even days working on a case. This week, he was home late Monday and Tuesday. Monday he didn’t even get home until after 10 pm. While his schedule will always be somewhat weird, it’s still easier for me because no matter what, he has to be up at 5:30am to get to work in time. Therefore, I can go to bed early, and just have food in the fridge for him to re-heat when he comes home.

What else? We are officially on a TTC break and we actually remembered to buy protection this month. I’m not going on birth control. In 2013, I tried getting on a continuous birth control so that I wouldn’t have to endure a period every month, and it was an epic fail. I ended up spotting all month long and STILL had a period every month. And had an awful headache, which I’ve always had from multiple types of birth control (I use to take it to control endometriosis). So we are just sticking to protection and I have to say that I’m already feeling much more at peace.

I feel like I was actually able to enjoy being together with my husband without fear. What a relief! I know that in the future, we are going to have to join this fight and try again, but for now, I’m enjoying my vacation. Maybe it’s an island of denial, but I’m happy in it for now.

I also feel like it’s easier to focus on my weight loss and paying off debt. When you aren’t consumed with fear of pregnancy and loss, you can actually focus on other goals. I’m also taking time to focus on my marriage.

And of course, my faith in Christ. I feel closer to God than I’ve ever felt before.

I realized that there are some serious issues in my heart and God is graciously revealing that to me and giving me the motivation and desire to change. You can put on a good show to the world and pretend everything is alright, but God knows the ugly parts of our hearts. And there is some ugliness in my heart that I honestly had no idea about until recently. It’s painful when God shows that to you, but I’m so glad that he humbled me gently so that I can be changed into who He wants me to be. Perhaps someday I’ll journal fully about this process and share the details of my struggles.

But for now, I’m enjoying this new season of my life. I’m not looking back at the past and I’m not longing for the future. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I can say that I’m honestly enjoying this moment in time. If I could describe this season of my life I would say it’s like the fall. Yes, I have a lot of work to do in my life right now, but it’s joyful laboring. Things are being made new all around me and I’m actually able to see the beauty in this current time in my life. Should I dare say, these are the glory days that I’ll someday look back on with a smile? I think so…

I hope you are all taking the time to enjoy your current season of life. I know that there might be painful events all around you, but I pray that you’ll choose to focus on the blessings instead of the struggles.

With love,


Why are people so crazy?

My blog has been private for a few weeks and I’m terribly sorry to anyone who has worried about me. I’m totally okay, first off. I needed to edit some parts of my blog for safety reasons after receiving an anti-police comment. I debated completely getting rid of my blog and YouTube channel but after talking with Jon I feel better about not running and hiding with fear.

I could write an entire blog post about the feelings I’m having regarding the anti-police agenda that’s sweeping through our nation, but I think it’s best I not.

Speaking of police, my husband interviewed for the detective position I was talking about last month and ….





He starts his new position in January and we are thrilled! I’m so proud of him and excited for this change in our lives! Thank you to everyone for your thoughts and prayers.

Right before his interview we had a stressful trip to the hospital to visit my grandmother. She had knee surgery the previous week and then started having some breathing problems. Thankfully she is out of the hospital now and all is well. Whew! It was scary to get that call from my mom.

My weight loss has sucked the two weeks thanks to the stress of traveling and going to the hospital, my husband’s interview, and being super busy with some church commitments I had. I’m looking forward to getting back on track. My stomach is in pain from the junk – I’m pretty sure there was some gluten cross contamination. It’s hard for me going out of town with Celiac disease even with a plan, but when it’s totally unplanned and dealing with stressful circumstances, it’s even more difficult to figure out what to eat.

What else? I actually get to be with my husband for Christmas Eve this year and later in the week we are going to visit my mom and grandma. It will be good to see my grandma out of the hospital.

Well for being busy lately, I sure don’t seem to have much to talk about on here right now. I’ll be back on Christmas to vent I’m sure. My period is due to start on, guess what day, Christmas. Of course! It started for Thanksgiving too. And Mother’s day. And my husband’s birthday. AF is really getting under my skin this year. There’s nothing like reminding you that you still don’t have a baby quite like AF on a holiday. Sigh!

I’d say here’s to hoping for a happy 2015, but I’m a little bit more bitter and annoyed this year than I was last year. If you are also bitter and SO OVER infertility, cheers to you (positive/hopeful people not welcome – just kidding, well kind of!) We can at least laugh through the cursing/crying/throwing a fit like a 2 year old at the 10 million pregnancy announcements over the holiday season :-)

Comment below if you’ve already witnessed pg announcements this season. I had two on Thanksgiving. Both at 4 weeks pregnant. Oh, to be that innocent of pregnancy loss :-/

Much love,


Thankful for my church family & for you ladies!

Last week I was up at the church on Friday morning finishing a ministry project that the youth girls worked on and I was getting some help from the children’s minister. We were talking about being sick and I was joking about what a baby Jonathan is when he gets sick and somehow the conversation turned to her saying everything else was easy after having a baby and going through that experience.

For the first time, like ever, someone realized, on the spot what they had said to me. She immediately acknowledged that she had just put her foot in her mouth and was incredibly apologetic. I wasn’t upset in the least and was just happy that someone took the time to understand how I might be feeling and to apologize for saying anything that might upset me.

The following day, I was surprised when I received a card in the mail from this friend/sister-in-Christ. It was an apology note from the day before. It was the most thoughtful gesture I have ever received. The next day I found her at church and told her thank you and how much the card meant to me. She had tears in her eyes telling me how worried she felt all weekend wondering if she had caused me pain. I just was in so much shock that someone could actually care about me and my pain to the point where they would cry for me and be concerned with how I’m feeling.

I’ll admit that the situation did end up making me sad, but it was not because of anything she said, but because we started talking afterwards about covering up our feelings as a coping mechanism. It made me realize that I’ve been putting up a wall and hiding the way I’m really feeling about this journey. And so that night, I allowed myself to cry, and that’s a good thing.

Sometimes we just need to fall apart so that we can truly heal. And I’m thankful to have a sister-in-Christ who loves me and cares about what I’m going through. I need to open myself up to people and let them know what’s really going on inside, because there are amazing people in my life, gifts from God, who love me and want to be there for me. And for that, I am very, very thankful.

Today, I’m not so thankful that AF is starting and I have about 5 million things going on at once. But I am thankful for pain medicine!!

Today I am also thankful that my husband is moving to a new shift at work. I’m nervous for this new change, but thankful for a new season of life and curious to see what this will bring.

And today, I am thankful for all of you. Your loving and supportive comments mean the world to me. I love you all so much!

Happy Turkey day to you all,


TTC break again?

Hi ladies, I hope you are all doing well and having a great week!

I have been sick for the last 8 days and it sucks big time. I’m in the home stretch now and getting better every day, but man am I ready to feel better. I had plans to go to Houston to visit my family and go wedding dress shopping with my best friend. I got sick the day before and missed out on all the fun. I’m still really bummed about it! Stupid immune system :-/

But through the sickness, I have been keeping myself occupied with starting my weight loss videos again on my YouTube channel. On top of doing Weigh-In Wednesday videos, I will now be doing a weight loss diary series to help me work through some of my struggles and deal with the emotions that go along with this process. I really shouldn’t embarrass myself posting videos of me while I’m sick, but I just knew that if I didn’t get it started again right then and there, I was never going to work up the courage to just dive in, head first.

If you want to check out the videos on my channel, you can click here.

I’m in my two week wait right now which makes me very unhappy. I wanted to prevent pregnancy this month and for the next several months while I lose weight. However, my husband just happened to be in the mood during my ovulation and I didn’t stop him, so now I’m really regretting not sitting down with him before ovulation to talk about my desire to prevent pregnancy for a little while.

I hope that I’m not pregnant. I just really want to focus on losing weight and if I get pregnant again and miscarry, it’s just going to be another set back in a sea of setbacks. The hopefulness I felt several months ago about getting pregnant and actually carrying to term is long gone. I feel like maybe if I lose weight I’ll have a chance of getting my miracle baby, but right now, it seems impossible. And even if things do go well, I’m so depressed over my weight that it would steal a lot of the joy of finally having a baby.

I just don’t want to worry every single month if I’m pregnant. I want to devote all of myself to losing weight and I can’t focus on anything when my mind is consumed with fear of losing another baby.

I really don’t think I’m pregnant this month and I hope I’m right, but knowing that there is a chance I could be makes me nervous and stressed out. I just can’t deal with this while I’m losing weight. I need my head to be completely in the game. There are still going to be struggles with my past history of loss and empty arms that I’ll have to deal with during my weight loss journey but if I can remove the stress of worrying about pregnancy and possible miscarriage it will take some pressure off of my shoulders.

So we are on a TTC break, yet again! And hopefully I’m not pregnant!

In other news, my husband is moving to a new shift at work and I’m thrilled. We are going to have so much time together and I will actually be on a normal sleep schedule again. Also, he still has a good chance of becoming a detective. His interview is in December and he heard through the rumor mill at work that he is one of the top candidates being considered. They have two open positions so there is a chance he might get the job. We have a friend at church that works for a different police department in the area and he is a detective so he gave Jonathan some books to study for his interview. I think that is going to give Jonathan a huge edge over the other candidates. But we will see. I’m trying not to get my hopes up right now. I’m just excited about his new shift that he will be starting next week and thankful that he was willing to make that sacrifice for me. He’s a good husband :-)

I’m going to wrap this up now but I hope you are all doing well and have a fun weekend! What are your plans for Thanksgiving? I’m going to serve food at a food ministry in town in the morning and afternoon and then that evening I’ll have a little Thanksgiving meal with Jonathan before he leaves for work. EEK – I actually get to have Thanksgiving with my husband this year thanks to his new work schedule! YAY!

Love and prayers to you all,